On Monday Morning
Here’s Monday’s reminder to notice — and maybe even be dazzled — by the wonders of the day.
By Geneen Roth When my friend Ed wanted to stop smoking, a Zen master told him that he needed to love smoking first. “Create a ritual each time you smoke,” the teacher said. “Take a cigarette and wrap it in a beautiful cloth. Go to a quiet place where you can be alone […]
Walk Around Feeling Like A Leaf
Sometimes when I look at the flowers in my garden I think: “Wow, if I really let myself take in how gorgeous one of them, I’m not sure I could even get up off the ground.” I’m not sure I could move. I’d be so speechless, knocked over by the beauty. Most of us don’t […]
Suffering and Wanting
I heard a talk recently about the Bhagavad Gita, which is an ancient Hindu teaching. And in it, Krishna, who is a representation of an illuminated being, says that there are several reasons why people change. One is suffering. Another is that we want something. We want to be thin and we’re not. We want […]
Make Peace With Your Body
By Geneen Roth Hot weather is here. Time to lighten up on clothes. Time for shorts, sleeveless tops, swimsuits. Translation: Time for bare thighs, bare arms, bare back. Sigh. I have a friend who dreads summer because of what she calls the unveiling of her body. Peeling off her clothes, she says, reveals “the horror […]
Working with Obstacles
Usually when we’re told to relax, we often fall asleep on ourselves. So when somebody says relax, be easy, be gentle with yourself and we relax, we consider it self-indulgence, almost like bingeing. When you’re on a so-called diet where you’re disciplining yourself, on the other hand, you’re going about cataloguing everything you have done: […]
On Retreat with Geneen
What happens at a retreat — when you are away from your day-to-day life — is an unfolding that cannot happen or would take years longer to happen otherwise. After a few days, the membrane that separates you from yourself and your deepest longings begins to dissolve … and you move into the life you long for.
I’ll tell you a story in my own life about something that’s changed recently. I was—and have been for 62 years—really late for everything. For a very long time, I’ve either been just two or three or four minutes late meeting a friend or going out to dinner. Or I’d be rushed and on time, […]
The World is On Your Plate
This powerful eating meditation illustrates how to stay in the present moment, as Geneen guides you to confront the super ego, defending against and disengaging from The Voice. Learn to stop the war within … and find peace in your relationship with food.
The GPS from the Twilight Zone
The biggest obstacle to transformation is the critic in your head telling you it’s impossible. What’s the point? It says. You’ve always been like this; you’ll always be like this. No one ever really changes. Might as well eat. By the way, what were you thinking when you wore those pants today? People have called this inner commentator the superego, the internalized parent, the inner critic. I call it simply The Voice.
The Big Life
When I was younger (well, really, until two years ago) the ordinary sounded boring. Just the word “ordinary” made me feel cranky, as if I was being sentenced to a lifetime of wearing faded brown muumuu’s that could fit my aunt Lucy, my cousin Poppy, and me. I wanted big success, big love, big highs […]
Somebody at one of my retreats said once, “I get a gold star for choosing this.” But the thing is that there is no one in the sky giving gold stars. Nobody’s giving you a gold star for doing it right. I mean, maybe you’ll get a promotion at work. That’s great. But if you’re […]
The Cookie Burglar: Stop Binge Eating
A few years ago, I worked with a woman who had decided to stop her nighttime bingeing by locking her food in cabinets and giving her husband the key. “It sounded like a perfect plan,” she said, “until I spent the hours after my husband went to sleep searching through his pockets, his drawers, and […]
How to Eat Less and Enjoy More
A few years ago, I was working on my laptop, developing a new workshop program, when one of my favorite series of all time came on TV — Pride and Prejudice (the one starring Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy, although let’s be frank: Is there any other?). So I nestled into the couch, preparing to […]